I would imagine that everyone has some sort of reaction to that word.
You might not be the FIRST man she blames all her problems on, but you sure as hell can be NEXT. On the whole, give single and divorced mothers a pass. Little girls long for daddies as much as little boys. The children of single mothers have already been wounded so deeply by the lack of a father.
And for the love of god, if you decide to give one a spin, STAY AWAY FROM THE CHILD. To give them some hope that it might be YOU, and then leave them is unspeakably cruel. You can’t save those little innocents, but you can save them from hurting even more.
So, I’ve scoured the interwebs for tips that should help when dating a single mom.
Here are eight rules that I think will lead you in the right direction.
Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location. Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going.
If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you . Do not do anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a decision you could regret. Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if you take a taxi.
Rule #7: Don’t Be Pushy in Getting to Meet Her Kids I’m quite sure that you’re going to have to have a connection with the kids in order to have a successful relationship with a single mom, but you’ve got to let the relationship with her kids happen when it happens.
When she feels comfortable with you, and she trusts you enough, you’ll get to meet her kids, but you’ve got to take it slow.
Rule #1: Don’t Treat Dating Like It’s a Sprint—It’s More Like a Half Marathon Guys, you have got to take it slow.
Despite everything being instant these days (texting, canned sandwiches, high-speed internet, get-rich-quick schemes), you have to give the relationship time to blossom, and it’s not going to happen overnight. You’re a great guy, so don’t blow it by proposing to the gal on the second date.
You can pick up a heroin addiction, drop out of high school, rob a bank or decide to write the great American novel financing yourself on your credit cards. You can go to rehab, get your GED, get parole, and pay off those cards. A modern man doesn’t turn up his nose at a woman with some sexual experience who might have learned a trick or two from previous lovers about what men REALLY like, or more likely, she learned how to FIND OUT, but the majority of men would like to see a NEW sign on her uterus. When a man picks a wife, he wants to know he won’t be competing with some random babydaddy who was there before him. A great wife and mother places the needs and happiness of her husband and children ABOVE her own needs, and in doing so, finds her greatest happiness. But a woman who makes YOU the center of her life is going to be a great wife. Oh, that’s the story she’ll spin for you, because really, what women is going to sit there and say “I’m an unbearably controlling and irrational cunt who made my husband’s life such hell he decided he would rather be a weekend Dad than spend one more second with me”. What kind of delusional self-image does a woman have, if she can fall for a con artist with a gambling habit that would shame Charlie Sheen?