Any woman logged in to Facebook after dark is deemed a low-hanging fruit. " Some others take a roundabout way to their destination:"What are you doing? So I feel this way to all women." Could not help asking him back if that applied to the women in his family as well.
Editor’s Note: This week we are running a 3-part series on sexual addiction and healing. I am one person, and my struggles with sexual addiction will not necessarily reflect another person’s struggles in this area. I am female, and I can only speak out of my experience as a woman, although I have spoken with guys about this topic. Just for clarification, I want to define sexual addiction.We recognize this is an extremely sensitive subject, so even though Haley is not graphic or inappropriate, I would encourage any younger teens to check with their parents before reading this – or skip this series for now. Actually, addiction is I will be speaking directly from my experience with sexual addiction. Sexual addiction, for both genders, can take the form of compulsive masturbation, online sex chatting, reading erotica, pornography usage, fantasizing, acts of foreplay, and actual sexual intercourse.In fact, most of the shame comes from knowing deep down how sinful these actions and thoughts are. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. It turns out that sex can produce the same effects as alcohol or drugs. If you can’t imagine it, that’s okay, because I have good news.When I was in the deepest, darkest part of my addiction, I wanted out. I didn’t want to “like” the sinful things that I kept doing. It’s all in the brain chemicals, and your brain has been rewired to “need” that next high. Stop, right now, and imagine what it would be like to not be addicted. What kinds of things would you do with all that time? You can still be healed, even if you don’t know what healing looks like.We do hope Haley’s words bring hope and encouragement to the many teenagers who are battling with these specific sins. It can be one of these things, some of these things, or all of these things.
A word that we, as Christians, often shy away from. After reading my third statement, I am guessing that you fell into one of two camps.A typical chat that started with a "hello", and a "hi" in response, changed tone at the sixth message:"How old are you? The woman is compelled to send her naked photos and videos.Those who oblige the seducers do so at their own peril, as proved by the numerous videos doing the round in Whats App groups.Mention cheating and you'll inspire some strong reactions, often along the lines of "castrate him! While self-righteous fury is occasionally cathartic, it rarely serves the cheatee very well, who may well still love the potentially castrated man (though she's likely less fond of the homewrecker).The result is that few of us are offered particularly healthy advice from our friends and family, even -- sometimes especially -- if they've gone through it themselves.It also inspired me to create this site -- to create a sense of community around the issue of infidelity and to invite other women to join the conversation. Never again will you look at the world through the same eyes.