"People who think that it's just about virginity are headed for trouble. A number of online dating sites allow individuals in the States, regions and countries to interact with each other, a possibility that rarely would happen if traditional dating.If you have genuine feelings for a person, if you love them, and if you are truly close to them, then what you're doing is OK." Like Tim, many high school students —including a lot of Christians—are committed to sexual abstinence.
Even so, many of these same students miss the point about other types of sexual activity."Actually, I think foreplay makes you stronger," says Jenny, 17.We found that this was a great help not only to our daughters but also to the young men who wanted to date them.We made our expectations clear, gave them specific guidance and principles (not just rules), and told them we’d be asking them if they were living up to these standards.Having consistently practiced this when they were dating, it was impossible for us and for our daughters to imagine them dating a young man without first openly addressing with him all the principles that follow.
(Each time we did this, of course, it further reinforced these principles for our daughters and for us.) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Sex was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns."I'd talk to this Christian friend of mine and she'd say, ' Sarah, you're rationalizing everything just to keep him.You're making everything that's wrong sound right.' My friend was so right, but I'd pretty much pushed God and my values out of the picture." A few months into the relationship, Sarah left home to live with her boyfriend. It was around this time that Kevin became physically abusive.He warns us not to talk about sex in any inappropriate context: But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place.We shouldn’t be ashamed to talk about what God wasn’t ashamed to create.