Maltempo says women occasionally made assumptions about him based on his race.
Even though intellectually I knew it wasn’t true, but emotionally [I was] blaming myself for not meeting a seemingly objective standard of what is attractive.” MC Maltempo, a 36-year-old Korean American who grew up in Golden, Colo., also met his significant other online.He first joined in 2006, but only started using it seriously in 2013.But when Montecillo reached the section that asked for his ethnicity, he hesitated.Montecillo, whose parents are Filipino, was born in New York and spent 13 years living in Hong Kong.“Even if you give them a little bit of room in terms of looks, that still leaves a really high bar for Asian men to be considered attractive at all.” To improve his success rate on Match.com, Maltempo created a rule for himself.
Rather than cast a wide net, he would message just one woman per week.
“I feel like I’ve grown into being more socially outgoing and talkative, but I wasn’t always that way,” he said.
“I think there was a long time where I felt ashamed, ashamed or self-conscious, or attributing me being single to the fact that I don’t have these qualities and I need to have these qualities in order to attract people.
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“Maybe they’d talk about how they’re really into anime, manga or ‘Have you seen that scary Japanese or Korean movie?