For example, a person who experienced infidelity in one relationship may transfer that fear onto every future relationship, causing unnecessary pain and turmoil for both partners.By working with a therapist, the same person can separate past trust issues from future fears, and teach them how to rebuild trust in existing relationships.
When you date someone , you have to lie to your parents.
You have to get involved physically or emotionally with a person that your parents might not approve of.
Trust is a quality that develops over time in every context, and with proper guidance, a person can gain the insight to identify where trust was compromised in the past.
In fact, the therapy process itself helps many people learn to trust again, as trust and mutual respect are integral to the relationship between therapist and client.
Likewise, adolescent experiences of either social rejection or acceptance may shape a person’s ability to trust those around him or her.
For instance, if someone is mocked, teased, or treated as an outcast by his or her peers during the teenage years, this will influence later relationships.
Being betrayed or belittled by others impacts self-esteem, which also plays a significant role in a person’s capacity to trust.
Basically, those who experience low self-esteem will be less likely to put their trust in those around them than those who are more self-assured.
Posttraumatic stress, which results from a person's exposure to severe danger or perceived danger, can lead a previously healthy person to experience tremendous difficulty with trust.
People may experience and re-experience the trauma in their minds, along with the associated anxiety, and often go to great lengths to create a feeling of safety, sometimes isolating themselves from others or becoming overly dependent.
Judgments about when and whom to trust help keep us safe and alive!