What’s needed to evaluate online dating success is information from a source that doesn’t have a vested interested in the outcome like this recent study from the Association for Psychological Sciencewhich discusses the notion that, although people are using online dating sites, the way people are actually finding spouses over the last several years remains largely unchanged.
(Example: Long-standing research shows that when couples encounter stress or unexpected demands on their energy, their satisfaction with their relationship declines, often leading to break-up or divorce.) Why don’t these dating sites take critical happenings, variables and milestones into account when evaluating compatibility money management, financial strain, losing a job, illness, death of a parent, moving, raising kids (not “do you want kids,” but rather, asking questions about parenting style and actually raising kids).The truth is that these questions are very difficult questions to ask.“Through a friend or family member” came in second (27 percent), while “On an online dating site” came in third (17 percent) hardly the “35 percent of Americans” as claimed in the earlier study.The Science Behind Online Dating Proprietary algorithms, tests and questionnaires that promise to match you with a mate provide an air of awe and confidence with a glint of the scientific.(Disclaimer: Are there women scammers who troll online dating sites?
Sure but in my research the amount of women scammers isn’t even close to the amount of men.) In truth, online dating sites allows these hustlers to become anyone, say anything, claim anything, and portray an image that sells them to as many willing/hopeful/desperate/nave people as possible.
Primal dating rituals and natural courtship don’t include posting a profile and a few pictures.
Here are the biggest issues with online dating: Even more damage occurs when interest is affirmed.
Everyone seems to know someone who knows someone who is getting married to their online sweetheart. The dating site’s algorithm automagically matches you up with like-minded people who have similar interests, hobbies, life goals, yada, yada, yada.
But after connecting with thousands of womenvia my Facebook pageand hearing their tales of missed dates, mixed messages, and misunderstood expectations, the horror stories seem to outnumber any purported success rate by a very wide margin. If this is true, then why do I receive hundreds of messages asking why he didn’t call, why she lied about being married, why he pretended to love her and then disappeared, and much, much more? “Research” When it comes to measuring the success of online dating, research studies and success stories are usually commissioned research through a third party, and paid for by the dating site.
In many ways, online dating provides a finishing school for amateur pick-up artists.