Courting takes a lot of the guesswork and headache out of dating for those who are ready for something more permanent.
Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.
The dating couple is merely attracted to one another in some way and often pursues an exclusive relationship that is independent of others’ influence or counsel.
A couple participating in courtship seeks the accountability of their parents or other mentors.
As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.
Because of this, courtship is much more serious than dating.
Entering a courtship is essentially saying that you feel that you could spend the rest of your life with that person. Some may feel that this places too much pressure on the couple. For those who are, this can be a very useful way of conducting your search for a soul mate.
Courting can be useful, regardless of your religion or lack thereof.
The idea is that if both members of the courtship are seeking to form a marriage, more care will be taken to court someone who is suitable for marriage.
Instead of focusing on God’s pleasure, the couple is often looking for personal pleasure.
This oblivious self-centeredness can lead only to dissatisfaction, promoting an attitude of lust (taking what I want) rather than the Scriptural attitude of love (giving unselfishly to others).
Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.
(See Proverbs 3:5–7.) Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.
Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date.